Lets face it girls, we all have that one friend who is dating a guy you don’t like,but she is so caught up with him that she is ignoring you.Yet there is so much about him that just doesn’t add up, or he is being rude to her. What do you do then? You want to shield and protect her from his toxicness. You wonder why she sticks around after everything he keeps doing, but if you talk to her about it she is going to get upset, insisting that they are alright, and that he’s perfect in every way.
Maybe you are that girl, and your friends keep telling you they don’t like your boyfriend. In that case, they’re probably right if their suspicions are grounded. We know, we have been there. Completely head over heels for the guy. Love can leave you blind. WE KNOW! It’s very typical. Unlike you, your friends aren’t completely head over heels for your guy (at least we hope not) and their thoughts can be pretty valuable because their outside the situation. If they’re saying they don’t like him and have reasons, then it’s a good idea to start thinking over the whole situation yourself.
- Guilt tripping – if a guy is saying anything to get you to stay, that’s a sign that they are unstable.
- Cheating – no exceptions. Get out of that relationship before they do it again, because they will.
- Being dishonest around others, or to you.
- Being rude to others
- Objectifying you
- Being WAY too overprotective and jealous
- If you’re scared to be with them alone
- Absolutely any physical violence – it’s not a sign of love, even if they try to cover themselves and apologize and act sweet about the whole thing, they are clearly going to hurt you again.
- If he/she is making you feel pressured to do anything
- Mental and physically abusing you
We would like to let all of you know, if you are experiencing an abusive relationship (physical or mental) GET HELP IMMEDIATELY! Please. It is no good to go through that, and there are people out there who can help you.You don’t deserve to stay in this relationship.
If you are a friend that knows her friend is going through any of these more violent red flags, encourage her in the nicest way possible to seek help. We know how hard it is to watch your friend go through such a hard time.
— Christine and Hailey