Thank you everyone for following and reading our blogs! We are super excited to start this girl talk series. We believe that some of these things need to talked about, but are too taboo and often don’t get mentioned as much as they should be.
Today’s topic will be double standards girls often face in their families and in everyday life in general.
A majority of girls are in families with brothers who, as they get older, get to experience more opportunities than their sisters.
For example, curfews. Parents often give their daughters a stricter curfew. “You MUST be home by 11pm!” Both our families have strict curfews, but Hailey has two brothers who don’t have any curfew at all.
I’m sure like us, this fact frustrates you. Constantly being told it’s dangerous to go out at a certain time. Or that you’re too young to do certain things, but then watching your older/younger brother be able to do those certain things.
Another example of these sexist double standards is dating. Parents are weird when it comes to dating, daughters seem to have it harder than sons do. Parents want to protect their daughters as much as they possibly can. We girls are the only ones who can populate this earth, and sometimes parents grow fearful of the idea of a guy having the power to get their daughter pregnant. This also frustrates us girls, because we feel we should have the freedom to see who we want to see.
Some parents are more lenient with the age they think their daughter should start dating, for most parents it is high school. While other parents are more protective of the age, for example when their daughter becomes a legal adult. With sons the dating age seems to be cut back a whole lot, and some parents don’t even have an age set for it!
The constant fear society puts on girls honestly leaves us paranoid. Everyday we hear about some poor innocent girl getting raped while out with friends, walking home from work/school, going out for a jog. And when we go out and try to enjoy ourselves the fear sinks in.
“Will this happen to me?” We shouldn’t have to be so scared to go out. We are told to “be mindful of what you wear.” or “Did you bring your pepper spray?”. We shouldn’t feel scared to go out and have FUN!
Guys can go out in nothing but shorts, and have no fear whatsoever, but if a girl wears a shirt that might be too revealing, or a dress that might be too tight, she feels scared. WE SHOULDN’T HAVE TO BE SCARED BECAUSE OF WHAT WE’RE WEARING! So what if your dress may be short? If you like it WEAR it!
If you guys have ever felt similar comment down below! We will be doing another one on boys on the last saturday of march!
— Christine and Hailey
I completely agree with this. I think it’s especially sad because most parents feel more protective of their daughters, but completely forget about the different troubles boys can come across if given such loose expectations. We live in a messed up world =/
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Yeah agreed! Boys sometimes need the restrictions even more than us! We do, it seems to slowly be getting fixed though, so I have hope that we will be able to eliminate most of these by raising awareness!
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Yup been there done that! I had a curfew while my twin brother didn’t. I had a dress code while he didn’t. I didn’t have any dating rules mostly because I was uninterested in dating until late teens and my parents were less concerned with 17-year-old me than they were 13-year-old me. It was very annoying and unfair, of which I was very vocal about. lol I suspect they only loosened their restrictions to get me to shut up. 😀
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Glad to see that this is something lots of people are noticing! Haha well if you got the restrictions loosened than that’s great anyways!
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I totally agree with you that society has so many double standards. We just have to carry on breaking the ‘rules’ and eventually the norms will change. xxx
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I guess we will! Thank you so much for reading and commenting 🙂
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